How to Transform Your Masturbation Plan for Pain-Free Pleasure

How to Transform Your Masturbation Plan for Pain-Free Pleasure

"When your hands don’t work like they used to before" or is it "legs"?...😁, either way, yes, a catchy Ed Sheeran lyric, but also a reality for women dealing with agonizing hand, wrist, and forearm, pain while masturbating. What should bring about thoughts of pleasure, enjoyment and relaxation can often bring its own pain.

As a woman who deals with chronic pain and helps others find comfort or relief, I am here to tell you pleasure, masturbation, and orgasms are achievable. Finding the right vibe and a few helpful tips will have you enjoying the pleasures of masturbation without the pain, cramps, stiffness, and inflammation.

Why is it so painful?

Hand pain and inflammation can limit the range of motion in the hands and fingers, making it difficult to engage in certain sexual activities such as manual stimulation or holding onto objects like vibrators or sex toys. Arthritis-related pain and inflammation can cause discomfort and heightened sensitivity in the hands, making gentle touch or pressure painful rather than pleasurable during intimate moments.

The 2 main concerns women have reported while using their own fingers/hands or vibrators/massagers to masturbate with are:
  1. Difficulty holding or gripping: Reduced dexterity makes it challenging to manipulate small buttons or controls on vibrators, adjust settings, or perform intricate movements during use.
  2. Discomfort or pain during use: Painful hands can result in discomfort or pain when holding, maneuvering, or applying pressure with vibrators, leading to decreased enjoyment.

Now for the good stuff!

How to transform your masturbation plan for pain-free pleasure:

#1 Choosing the right vibrator:

  • Opt for a vibrator that is lightweight and easy to handle to minimize strain on your hands and wrists.
  • Look for vibrators with ergonomic shapes and handles that are comfortable to hold and use without exacerbating pain.
  • Choose vibrators made from soft, smooth materials such as silicone to avoid discomfort or irritation during use.
  • Prioritize vibrators with straightforward controls or buttons that are easy to operate, especially if dexterity is an issue.

#2 Try hands-free or a positioning pillow:

Prolonged holding of a vibrator can lead to discomfort in your hands and wrists. To alleviate this issue, consider employing the following pillow method:

  • Position the pillows between your legs or beneath your hips to provide adequate support.
  • Ensure that the height of the pillows aligns with your vulva.
  • Place the vibrator on both the pillow and your body, allowing it to rest securely.
  • Activate the vibrator and indulge in hands-free stimulation.
  • Alternatively, explore grinding your body against the vibrator using your hips for added sensation.

There are also many vibrators made specifically for in the panty use and others that can be placed inside your shorts/underwear and positioned to hit the vagina, G or P -spot & clitoris just right!

My favorite in the undies vibe:

Sugar Pop Harmony - Pocket-Sized Vibrator

hand vibrator

#3 Keep your hands comfortable pre and post "play" session:

  • Heat therapy: Apply heat to your hands using warm towels or heating pads. Heat helps to increase blood flow, relax muscles, and reduce stiffness and pain in joints before masturbating.
  • Hydrotherapy: Soak your hands in warm water for relief from chronic joint pain and stiffness. Consider adding epsom salts or essential oils to the water for added relaxation and therapeutic benefits.
  • Hand massage & stretches: Gently massage your hands to improve circulation, reduce inflammation, and alleviate pain associated with arthritis and other chronic pain conditions. Perform hand stretches to improve flexibility and range of motion in painful joints. Simple exercises like making a fist, spreading your fingers wide, and bending your fingers forward and backward can help loosen tight muscles and reduce stiffness.
  • Rest and pacing: Listen to your body and give your hands adequate rest when experiencing pain flare-ups. Avoid activities that exacerbate pain and pace yourself to prevent overexertion.

Our favorite vibrators while living with chronic pain:

The Njoy Pure Wand

This is a wonderful toy for those experiencing mobility restrictions or chronic pain due to the ease of positioning, and is a wonderful option for anyone experiencing pain during sex or pain after sex as you can easily control the depth of penetration.

The Njoy Pure Wand

The Lelo Sona

SONA™ redefines pleasure with its groundbreaking design, utilizing sonic waves and pulses to stimulate 75% more of your clitoris, delivering mind-blowing sensations with every use. Unlike conventional sex toys, SONA™ is engineered for ergonomic comfort and ease of grip, ensuring effortless pleasure and sweeping climaxes without direct contact with your clitoris.

 Lelo Sona Clitoral Vibrator

Dealing with chronic pain doesn't mean sacrificing pleasure. With the right strategies and tools, such as choosing the appropriate vibrator and implementing comfort measures, you can enjoy satisfying sexual experiences while managing your pain effectively. Remember to listen to your body, prioritize self-care, and explore what works best for you. Don't let pain hold you back from experiencing your OFace!!

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